Run it past me

Run It Past Me


Telephone - Online - Face to Face - Home Visits

(0408) 697 367




Sandy’s specialty is the creation of conscious, respectful relationships. Most of us are reacting from our conditioned past, from our sub-conscious, triggered by our “Lizard Mind”. But as Sandy has learned and experienced, there’s a common misunderstanding about how the mind actually works. It affects what we think, how we feel and how we create our moment-to-moment reality. Sandy can help you clear up this misunderstanding, so that you can be less reactive to your conditioned thinking, more able to create your life and relationships consciously, which can ultimately result in deeper, more “real” connections with the important people in your life.
Sandy can help you access your “inner guru”. You’ll be able to relax more, stress less and find your own answers to life’s future challenges, anytime, anywhere.
“A problem shared is a problem halved.” Off-load unhelpful emotions to Sandy. You’ll think more clearly and be more stable at work or at home with your family.

Why should you choose Run It Past Me over another counsellor?

Sandy will show you that wellbeing, health, joy and creativity are the essence of who you are. You don’t need fixing. You just need to let go of a few misunderstandings. Her job is to help you see that you actually have everything you need to live your life in the most joyful, peaceful, healthy and prosperous way. Working with Sandy is always about clarity, never about dependency.
Facilitating a stronger connection between yourself and your own “inner guru” is Sandy’s goal. She can help you relax into that space where you simply know in your waters what the next right thing is to do. 
Because Sandy knows that you can do what you want to do, regardless of your thinking about it, it means that she can work from a foundation of lightness and creativity to build your confidence.
Given Sandy’s sixteen years as a Lifeline Telephone Counsellor and her Graduate Diploma in Counselling, she is experienced, qualified AND passionate about the amazing potential benefits of counselling and coaching.
So, are you feeling stuck or overwhelmed, or do you just have something you’d like to nut out, but you’d rather not worry your family or friends? Or, are you ready to turn life up a notch? Why not give Sandy a call?

Telephone sessions may suit you because...

You’re pressed for time.
You are isolated.
You need a calm, non-judgemental ear to bounce things off.
You want to be completely anonymous.
You sometimes call helplines but prefer speaking to the same counsellor.
You live in a small town where “people talk”.
You’re on vacation or a business trip.
You need an appointment at a time when you are unable to meet in person.
You prefer after-hours appointments.
You may find it easier to be open and honest if we are not in the same room.
You are physically unable to travel.
You lack the confidence to leave home.
You feel you are often pre-judged by the way you look.
You cannot afford the travel time to and from a counsellor’s office.
You have limited access to a baby-sitter.
Your prefer non-denominational support.
You wish to minimise petrol consumption.

The first 15 minutes are free to see if you're a good match.


This is not a crisis service. If you require urgent assistance, please visit your nearest hospital or call your national crisis support line: Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 or ‘000’ ~ USA: 1800 784 2433 or ‘911’


Run It Past Me

You're feeling stuck or overwhelmed. You just need to bounce an issue off someone but you'd prefer not to bother your family or friends. You and Sandy can brainstorm to uncover the next best step for you.

Sixty and ninety minute sessions available.

Begin Transformation

Learn how the mind actually works. Disconnect from your habitual, personal thinking and build a stronger, conscious connection between yourself and your own wisdom. You'll live a more contented, creative and authentic life. After three sessions with Sandy, you should be starting to notice a difference in your moment-to-moment experience of life.

Three sixty minute sessions ~ 10% discount.

Support and Restore

This common contract with Sandy provides support through a difficult period, covers one particular issue in depth, or provides a more solid grounding in how the mind actually works (see Begin Transformation).

Six sixty minute sessions ~ 20% discount.

Prepare/Enrich - Premarital Education and Relationship Enrichment

PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised couple assessment which is completed online and identifies your strengths and growth areas. One of the most widely used programs for premarital education, it is also used for marriage counselling, marriage enrichment and couples who are dating and considering engagement. As a qualified facilitator, Sandy will provide feedback sessions based on your assessment results. During these sessions she will help you discuss and understand your results as well share proven relationship skills.

The program has these goals:

- Explore relationship strengths and growth areas
- Learn ``conscious loving`` skills
- Learn assertiveness and active-listening skills
- Learn how to resolve conflict
- Discuss the influence of your family-of-origin
- Learn to cope better with stressors
- Focus on personal, couple and family goals

Premarital Education Package:
Online Questionnaire plus three sixty minute sessions.
Additional sixty minute sessions are available.

“Clients report online sessions via telephone or Skype are less intimidating than face-to-face sessions and they generally feel more relaxed and in charge of the process. It is surprising how effective telephone and Skype therapy sessions are. Although client and therapist may be thousands of miles apart, they feel like they are in the same room.”

Psychology Today, July 2010

“Sandy responded to my initial email quickly and it was great to then be able to ‘vent’ and have someone to bounce ideas off. She helped clarify my thinking and gave me ways to help make the difficult decision I needed to make. Everything was easier as a result of my talking to Sandy and I am sure that my handling of the situation went better both for myself and the other person involved. I found her approachable and caring with a good dose of common sense and humour thrown in. All in all a very positive experience.”

Anon, QLD

“I was going though an emotional period with a past relationship and needed an understanding ear to listen and maybe help with some advice. Sandy was very patient, listened well and was very empathetic to my emotional state. I felt safe talking to her about my issues and she gave me some helpful, sound advice that helped me make decisions that were right for me. I would highly recommend Sandy to anyone who is looking for a professional counsellor, someone neutral to talk to who can perhaps help you through whatever personal situation you’re going through. Thank you for your time and patience with me Sandy!”



About Sandy

Sandy Loyall

(B.Ed, Grad. Dip. Counselling)

“Hello… and welcome.

A friend once asked a group of fellow dinner-party guests, “If you were in control of the planet for 24 hours, what would you do?” It took all of a nano-second for me to declare that educating every single human about how their mind actually works would be my goal, presumably by conducting compulsory, intensive day-long e-learning workshops!

Developing this understanding myself has drastically improved my life. My sister recently made the comment, “Sandy ~ you’ve changed,  you’re so much calmer!” and my friend Ros, always one to call a spade a spade claims, “You’ve lightened up!” And that’s how I feel: more relaxed, disengaged from the constant “mental chatter”, spending most of my time in the present moment, letting go of the reins and trusting in the natural flow of life.

This passion of mine, to share this understanding and help as many people as possible experience this wonderful inner peace, is underpinned by extensive training and experience in the world of personal transformation. My qualifications include a Graduate Diploma in Counselling which I obtained from the Australian College of Applied Psychology in 2010, and a Bachelor of Education from the Melbourne College of Advanced Education (now Melbourne University) in 1985. Although Run It Past Me is not a crisis service, I have also completed the Mental Health First Aid workshop and ASIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training) and can offer support if you, a family member or friend are having thoughts of suicide.

Work-experience-wise, I was employed part-time by Lifeline Northern Rivers as their Mentoring and Support Officer from 2009 until August 2015. My role was to supervise 70+ volunteer telephone counsellors, making sure they were happy and following Lifeline procedures. I also worked on the phones as a volunteer Crisis Telephone Counsellor for 16 years.

My background includes living in the USA as an exchange-student in Minnesota (for 12 months) and as an expatriate in Connecticut (for 4 years).

My coaching and counselling style has been influenced by a wide variety of psychological disciplines including Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Person-Centred Therapy, Existential Therapy, The Three Principles and Mindfulness which I access intuitively to help you uncover your own answers, your own truth.

I will never directly tell you what to do. Rather, I will offer questions that direct you inward and support you as you learn to trust your own “inner guru” and the answers you’ll discover, because everyone is unique and you are always the expert in your own life.”


No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be unlocked from the inside. Marilyn Ferguson

“Sandy was my mentor and counsellor when I separated from my husband. She guided rather than instructed and was a fantastic listener. This was before she studied her counselling degree which she has since acquired. Sandy has a natural ability to help and guide others.”


“My therapeutic journey has covered decades, continents and many counsellors and psychologists in an effort to overcome a most difficult childhood. Sandy was a patient listener and refrained from giving advice which I greatly appreciated.”



Reach Me

Run It Past Me

Sessions with Sandy are available in Australia and worldwide from the comfort of your own home or office via Telephone, Skype or Zoom

Face-to-face in Bangalow, NSW, Australia

Home visits:

Byron Bay – Bangalow – Clunes – Ballina – Mullumbimby – Brunswick Heads – Lennox Head


Tel: (0408) 697 367


Skype: runitpastme

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